The Five Keys to Mindful Communication

<p>The first key of mindful communication, according to Chapman (2012), is having amindful presence. This means having an open mind, awake body and a tender heart. When you have a mindful presence, you give up expectations, stories about yourself and others, and acting on emotions.</p><p>You are fully in the present moment; your communication isn’t focused on the “me” and what the “me” needs, but the we.</p><p>Mindful listening is the second key to mindful communication. Mindful listening is about encouraging the other person. This means looking through the masks and pretense and seeing the value in the person and the strengths he or she possesses. It’s looking past the human frailties and flaws that we all have to see the authentic person and the truth in what that person is attempting to say.</p><p>Mindful speech, the third key, is about gentleness. Speaking gently means being effective in what you say. It’s about speaking in a way that you can be hard. To be gentle with our speech means being aware of when our own insecurities and fears are aroused to the point we are acting out of fear rather than acceptance.</p><p>Practicing self-compassion for our fear, envy, jealousy and self-doubts is more effective than focusing on others as being a threat or attempting to change them. When you use gentle speech, you are communicating acceptance to the other person and saying what is true, not an interpretation or an exaggeration or a minimization.</p><p>The key to mindful relationships is unconditional friendliness. Unconditional friendliness means accepting the ebb and flow of relationships. Sometimes you meet new friends, sometimes friends move on, sometimes there is joy and sometimes there is pain. Sometimes you’ll feel lonely, sometimes you’ll feel cherished and connected, and then you’ll feel lonely again.</p><p>Unconditional friendliness means that your acceptance of others is not dependent on them staying with you or agreeing with you. You don’t cling to relationships to avoid loss.</p><p>Mindful responsiveness is like playfulness.  Playfulness is the openness that you can have when you let go of preconceived ideas and strategies. It’s like creating something new. Imagine two skilled dancers who alternatively lead each other in creating a new dance in every interaction, never doing the same complete dance over and over. They respond in the moment to the message sent by the other. There are no rules or expectations and yet they both bring skillful behavior.</p><p>Mindful communication requires practice. If you choose to practice the keys, you might choose to focus on one at a time. Being willing to regulate your emotions is a prerequisite to mindful communication and mindfulness of your emotions is necessary for emotion regulation.</p><p>Mindfulness is a core skill for the emotionally sensitive.</p><p> </p><p>References</p><p><iframe src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?lt1=_blank&bc1=000000&IS2=1&bg1=FFFFFF&fc1=000000&lc1=0000FF&t=dreawarrreco-20&o=1&p=8&l=as4&m=amazon&f=ifr&ref=ss_til&asins=1590309413" frameborder="0"></iframe></p><p>Chapman, Susan Gillis. The Five Keys to Mindful Communication:  Using Deep Listening and Mindful Speech to Strengthen Relationships, Heal Conflicts and Acceomplish Your Goals. Boston: Shambhala, 2012.</p>

The Five Keys to Mindful Communication

The first key of mindful communication, according to Chapman (2012), is having amindful presence. This means having an open mind, awake body...

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ADDICTION charity Focus12 has received a huge financial boost after a codumentary about Russell Brand was shown last night.

<p><p>The documentary Russell Brand: Addiction to Recovery resulted in an immediate boost in donations and inspired the managing director of Bury St Edmunds based Chevington Finance and Leasing to offer the charity £106,000 over three years.</p><div><p>Russell Brand attended Focus12, the Bury St Edmunds abstinence-based alcohol and drug rehabilitation centre, in 2003 and is now a patron of the charity, describing it as ‘a really excellent example of a small cost effective rehab that can help people change in dramatic ways’.</p><p>Chip Somers, Focus12’s chief executive, said: “Russell’s documentary and his work this year to raise the profile of abstinence based recovery has got people talking about addiction in a different way, and made them realise that there is a viable alternative to simply giving up on addicts, or parking them on methadone.</p><p>“We are blown away by the generosity of Chevington — this financial support will make a huge difference to us as a charity and will certainly mean we can continue to stay open and help those who need us for longer. Raising funds for a recovery charity has never been harder than it is at present, every day is literally a struggle to keep afloat and we are very grateful.”</p><p>Clive Morris, Managing Director of Chevington Finance and Leasing said: “My wife and I were incredibly touched by last night’s documentary, which inspired us to endorse the local treatment centre Focus12, and we have today agreed funding assistance for the charity of £106,000 over the next 4 years.</p><p>“We believe that as a successful, responsible and reliable company we have a duty to help local charities survive this recession and the work that Chip Somers and his team do is fantastic and we fully endorse their abstinence based programme and have seen what a difference it makes to people’s lives.”</p></div></p>

ADDICTION charity Focus12 has received a huge financial boost after a codumentary about Russell Brand was shown last night.

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London's secret music venue and their livestream act

<div><h3></h3></div><div id="15745"><img alt="boiler-room-ch1.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch1-thumb-800x533-45065.jpg" width="620" /><p>With an invite-only door policy and super secret location, <a href="http://boilerroom.tv/" target="_blank">Boiler Room</a> is London's most exclusive music venue. But elitism isn't the premise for its clandestine nature—in fact, anyone with an Internet connection can easily join in the fun. Using a simple webcam, the crew behind Boiler Room livestreams each set for the world to see free of charge, and each month more than a million viewers tune in to see performances by artists like James Blake, The xx, Roots Manuva, Neon Indian, Juan Maclean and more.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch2.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch2-thumb-800x533-45066.jpg" width="620" /><p>We recently chilled out to the smooth sounds of Brooklyn's <a href="http://howtodresswell.com/" target="_blank">How To Dress Well</a> before rocking out to revered musician <a href="http://boilerroom.tv/matthew-dear-40-min-mix/" target="_blank">Matthew Dear</a>, who brought down the house with an intense 40-minute DJ set. Keep an eye out for our interview with Dear, but for now you can get a little more insight into the underground music scene's most talked about livestream show by checking out our interview with assistant musical programmer and Boiler Room host Nic Tasker.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch3.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch3-thumb-800x533-45067.jpg" width="620" /><h5>How important is it for Boiler Room to remain secret, at least in its location?</h5><p>That is quite an important aspect of it, purely because it means when you do shows you don't get a lot of groupies, pretty much everyone in the room is either a friend of ours or one of the artist's. It helps to create a more relaxed atmosphere for the artist and I think they feel less pressure. They're also just able to chill out and be themselves more rather than having people being like, "Hi can I get your autograph?" If the artists are relaxed usually you get the best music.</p><h5>It seems like there is more interaction among the crowd than at a typical venue, is that intentional?</h5><p>It's definitely a social place. All the people that come down, most of them we know and they're all our friends. So they come down, hang, have a drink and just chill out, basically. From our very set-up, we do it with a webcam, we're not a highly professional organization but I think that's kind of the charm of it. The main thing is people come down with the right attitude.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch4.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch4-thumb-800x533-45068.jpg" width="620" /><h5>How much of the show is prescribed?</h5><p>I guess that depends on the artist. We never say anything. Literally, whatever they want to do—we're kind of the platform for them to do whatever they want, so if Matthew Dear wants to come and play an hour of noise with no beats, he can do that. That's fine with us, and I think that's why artists like coming to play for us. We're not like a club where you have to make people dance, we don't give a shit if people dance. It's nice if they do and it makes it more fun, but some nights you just get people appreciating the music, which is equally fun.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch5.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch5-thumb-800x533-45069.jpg" width="620" /><h5>Is there a particular kind of artist you guys look for and ask to come perform?</h5><p>No, not particularly, it's just whatever we're feeling. Thristian [Boiler Room's co-founder] has the main say on musical direction, but it's a massive team effort. In London there's five of us, New York there's two, LA there's one and Berlin there's two.</p><h5>Tonight you had different set-ups for each artist, do you tailor their positioning in the room to their style?</h5><p>It definitely depends on the act and what kind of music they do. With live bands we found what works nicely is having them opposite each other because it's like they're in rehearsal, like they're just jamming. Which is again trying to give them that chilled out feel that they're just at home jamming and there happens to be a camera there. For some of our shows we've had over 100,000 viewers. When you think of those numbers it's quite scary, but when you're in the room and it's all friends it creates that vibe that people don't mind. You can imagine if you had all those people in front of you it would be a very different situation.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch7.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch7-thumb-800x533-45072.jpg" width="620" /><h5>Have you ever thought of Boiler Room as an East London version of Soul Train?</h5><p>It's never crossed my mind like that, but I can see why you think that. I like to think of us as the new music broadcaster, kind of the new MTV, but obviously we operate in the underground scene mainly. But I like to think that what we do is as revolutionary as what they were doing. We're always growing into something new.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch6.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch6-thumb-800x533-45070.jpg" width="620" /><h5>What's up next for Boiler Room?</h5><p>We have had visual people in doing 3D mapping, and that's something we're looking forward to progressing—doing more with the visuals. We've got the upstairs as well, we're starting to do breakfast shows with some high profile DJs, we're going to be doing that regularly. Each will have an individual format. The next step is progressing the US shows, we're alternating weekly between New York and LA, so the next step is to take Boiler Room to America</p></div>

London's secret music venue and their livestream act

With an invite-only door policy and super secret location,  Boiler Room  is London's most exclusive music venue. But elitism isn't t...

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Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.

<p>Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.UK Citizens<iframe src="http://rcm-uk.amazon.co.uk/e/cm?t=cosdelcri-21&o=2&p=8&l=as1&asins=1577316142&ref=tf_til&fc1=000000&IS2=1&lt1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="width:120px;height:240px;" scrolling="no" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" frameborder="0"></iframe></p><p>This is the book that offers a different perspective on codependency and is strongly recommended by Dream Warrior Recovery as part of a solution based recovery. This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life.US Citizens<iframe src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?lt1=_blank&bc1=FFFFFF&IS2=1&bg1=FFFFFF&fc1=000000&lc1=0000FF&t=dreawarrreco-20&o=1&p=8&l=as4&m=amazon&f=ifr&ref=ss_til&asins=1577316142" style="width:120px;height:240px;" scrolling="no" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" frameborder="0"></iframe></p><p>Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world. Then they focus on healing co-dependency, providing compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.</p>

Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.

Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behav...

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True guilt is guilt at the obligation one owes to oneself to be oneself. False guilt is guilt felt at not being what other people feel one ought to be or assume that one is. Moderate feelings of guilt are beneficial because they encourage the individual to do the right thing

<p>The Scottish psychologist R.D. Laing once said: True guilt is guilt at the obligation one owes to oneself to be oneself. False guilt is guilt felt at not being what other people feel one ought to be or assume that one is. Moderate feelings of guilt are beneficial because they encourage the individual to do the right thing. If nobody felt guilty about anything it would likely lead to a fearful world and it could even threaten the survival of the human species. There is also a more negative form of guilt which is excessive and harmful. This refers to a situation where the individual carries a sense of guilt around with them most of the time. The reasons for why the individual may become a victim of excessive guilt include: They have a poor self image. It can be a sign of mental health difficulties. Some people fall into negative thinking and this tends to include guilt. The individual has been a victim of physical or sexual abuse. Unhealthy relationships can leave people with feelings of guilt. Excessive stress. Alcohol or drug abuse.</p>

True guilt is guilt at the obligation one owes to oneself to be oneself. False guilt is guilt felt at not being what other people feel one ought to be or assume that one is. Moderate feelings of guilt are beneficial because they encourage the individual to do the right thing

The Scottish psychologist R.D. Laing once said: True guilt is guilt at the obligation one owes to oneself to be oneself. False guilt is gui...

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A million Britons live with the hell of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

<p>Nadine Stewart was convinced she was going to die. Just ten minutes after setting off for a pop concert with her sister, she felt a tingling sensation in her arms and pain in her chest.</p><p>‘I knew I was having a heart attack,’ says Nadine, 41, a customer services adviser from Morecambe, Lancashire. ‘I begged my sister to take me to A&E: I ran in and screamed that I was having a heart attack.</p><p>‘They put me on a monitor and my heart was fine — what I had suffered was a panic attack. I have no idea to this day what caused it, but it terrified the life out of me.’ </p><div><img alt="Nadine Stewart has to do everything nine times or fears her husband will die" height="565" src="http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/07/25/article-2178978-13FDCCA8000005DC-228_634x565.jpg" width="634" /><p>Nadine Stewart has to do everything nine times or fears her husband will die</p></div><p>But worse was to come. ‘Afterwards, I developed a fear that if I didn’t do something nine times, something terrible would happen to me, my husband Paul or a member of my family.’ says Nadine. </p><p>‘If I made a drink I had to stir it nine times. If I locked the door I had to check it nine times and if I used a cloth to wipe a surface I’d have to wipe it nine times. I don’t know why it was nine. I realised I was being utterly irrational. But every time I tried to curb it — such as only stirring my drink three times — I’d begin to panic.'</p><div> ‘If I didn’t do these things nine times, I’d imagine Paul and me veering off the motorway in our car and see his injured face in the aftermath.’</div><p>Nadine had Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), recognised by the World Health Organisation as one of the top ten most disabling disorders in terms of its effect on quality of life. </p><p>Last month both the British actress Emily Blunt and the MP Charles Walker revealed they suffered from it, with Walker admitting he had to do everything in multiples of four — and felt the need to wash his hands hundreds of times a day. </p><div> Who knew?<br />Surveys estimate that fewer than<br />10 per cent of those suffering OCD are currently receiving treatment.</div><p>They are not alone. Around a million people in the UK are thought to be undergoing treatment for OCD, the majority of them women. Women are twice as likely as men to develop anxiety disorders such as OCD — and high-achieving perfectionists are particularly at risk. </p><p>‘There are two parts to OCD, the obsession and the compulsion,’ explains Joel Rose, of charity OCD Action. ‘The obsession is a thought that pops into your head, about harm coming to someone you love or you causing harm to someone.'</p><p>‘Everyone has these thoughts but most of us ignore them and get on with our lives. Someone with OCD will develop a compulsive ritual as a reaction to them. It can be continually washing their hands or something invisible like repeating the same phrase over and over in their heads.'</p><p>‘The time spent on these compulsions lengthens with time. A severe OCD sufferer might spend six or seven hours a day washing their hands in the hope nothing terrible happens to their children.’</p><p>The cause of the condition is not known, though a stressful event in someone’s life may trigger an underlying problem. </p><p>Nadine has never pinpointed the root of her troubles — though they began in the year she started a new job, moved house and got engaged. ‘I had no reason to feel anxious,’ she said, ‘though I suppose there was a lot of change.</p><p>‘I became scared of choking to death so I stopped eating and lost three stone in less than three months. I couldn’t leave the house without Paul, and even then it would take me three hours to pluck up the courage.’</p><p>Someone who can empathise with Nadine is Jeni Scott, 31, who’s had OCD for three years. <br />It began when her father had a heart attack and her mother was diagnosed with cancer, soon after Jeni left university. </p><p>‘I became obsessed with doing things in order,’ says Jeni, a tutor from Newport, Wales. ‘I started making lists but it had everything on it such as “get up, have shower, make a cup of tea” and if I didn’t stick to it I would punish myself by denying myself a treat.</p><div><img alt="Actress Emily Blunt, star of Five Year Engagement, has revealed she suffers from OCD" height="1060" src="http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/07/25/article-2178978-139B6B4A000005DC-908_306x1060.jpg" width="306" /><p>Actress Emily Blunt, star of Five Year Engagement, has revealed she suffers from OCD</p></div><p>‘I developed a phobia of being in the rain in the wrong clothes and had to take a backpack with spare bra, pants, coat, shoes and umbrella everywhere with me. I’d carry antibacterial gel in my bag and use it every ten minutes. I’ve still no idea why I did it, I just found it helped me.’ </p><p>Aisha Faisal, from Reading, Berkshire, also suffers from OCD — and it’s getting worse. ‘I developed it in my teens when my mother fell ill and I had to clean the house,’ the 26-year-old says. ‘Now I’m obsessed with everything being super-clean. I wash my hands 14 or 15 times a day, I shower for an hour at a time and wash the shower head and bath thoroughly before I step in. </p><p>‘If someone touches me, I cringe. My neighbour touched my scarf to tell me it was pretty and I had to have a shower and put all my clothes in the wash.’ Aisha, who has three children under four, admits her obsession extended to giving birth. </p><p>‘Each time I had Caesarean sections — the thought of having a natural birth makes me feel physically sick.’ She made the surgeons assure her everything had been scrubbed thoroughly before each operation. Understandably, her OCD worries the rest of her family. ‘My husband Ali finds it very hard to see me like this. I won’t let him touch me when he comes in from work: he has to shower and put on clean clothes before he can hug me.'</p><p>‘With three young children, being clean is impossible and I bathe them twice a day in the winter and sometimes four times a day in the summer if they’re hot and sticky.’</p><p>As a result of her obsession her own hands are red raw and she suffers from eczema. ‘I have been to the GP but it’s very difficult to treat. I know I must do something soon, because my eldest daughter, who is four, is picking up on my behaviour and I feel very guilty about that.'</p><p>‘The other day she came in from the garden and said she was dirty so needed to get out of her clothes and I washed her and cleaned her thoroughly. My husband can’t believe our electricity bill because the washing machine is on constantly.’</p><p>While Aisha is still in the grip of OCD, Jeni and Nadine have overcome the condition. According to the NHS, the two recognised forms of treatment are Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), which helped Jeni, and anti-depressants. </p><p>But Nadine used another therapy called The Linden Method — a two-day workshop costs £995 — when she reached her lowest point early last year.</p><p>‘I was unable to work, leave the house or answer the phone,’ she says. ‘My vision became blurry, my hands would spasm and I’d get pains like rheumatism. I began to think: “What’s the point in living?” yet I was too scared to kill myself.’</p><p>The Linden Method — which has also helped OCD sufferers Jemma and Jodie Kidd — works by convincing the sufferer’s sub-conscious that they are safe. </p><p>‘I’m a different person,’ says Nadine. ‘I can leave the house, I’m applying for jobs, taking up hobbies and it’s transformed my relationship with Paul. </p><p>‘He says it’s like having a wife in a wheelchair who can walk again. Except I feel I can not only walk, I can fly.’</p><p><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; text-align: left;"><br /><br /><br /></span></p>

A million Britons live with the hell of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

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Please shed whatever lowly vestments you're currently using to hide your disgusting body, and slip into one of these pre-shrunk cotton miracles.

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border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">3.</span> DJ Caesar</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="DJ Caesar" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-21969-1340987108-13.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401585" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">4.</span> Boxer Rocky</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Boxer Rocky" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-919-1340987002-22.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401661" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">5.</span> Hunter Buck</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Hunter Buck" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-31927-1340987757-8.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401576" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">6.</span> Biker JD</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Biker JD" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22014-1340986864-16.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401591" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">7.</span> Combat Sam</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Combat Sam" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-17092-1340987044-8.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401592" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">8.</span> Combat Stryker</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Combat Stryker" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-20421-1340987065-3.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401634" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">9.</span> DJ Jahman</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="DJ Jahman" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22622-1340987658-4.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401646" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">10.</span> Graffiti Saber</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Graffiti Saber" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22587-1340987698-3.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401668" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">11.</span> Navy SEAL</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Navy SEAL" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19513-1340987807-7.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401674" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">12.</span> Smokin Jahman</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Smokin Jahman" class="bf_dom" height="557" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19436-1340987849-4.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401685" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">13.</span> DJ Sarge</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="DJ Sarge" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19498-1340987955-8.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401689" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">14.</span> Rocker Cooper</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Rocker Cooper" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19516-1340987980-5.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401800" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">15.</span> Duck Hunter</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Duck Hunter" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/13/enhanced-buzz-19487-1340989395-27.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401728" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">16.</span> Big Cock Head</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Big Cock Head" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-5673-1340988493-7.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401697" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">17.</span> Guard Panzer</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Guard Panzer" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-31969-1340988031-9.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401707" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">18.</span> Nas T-Rex</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Nas T-Rex" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-5634-1340988149-12.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401716" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">19.</span> Punky!</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Punky!" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-5683-1340988287-12.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401726" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">20.</span> Backpack Kitty</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Backpack Kitty" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22669-1340988456-7.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401735" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">21.</span> Come & Get It</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Come &amp; Get It" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-31927-1340988528-15.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401743" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">22.</span> Rastafurrian Kitten</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Rastafurrian Kitten" class="bf_dom" height="557" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19513-1340988620-20.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401747" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">23.</span> T-Rex Tearing</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="T-Rex Tearing" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22678-1340988662-20.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401812" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">24.</span> Golden Feather</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Golden Feather" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/13/enhanced-buzz-31966-1340989485-14.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401822" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">25.</span> My personal favorite (SOLD OUT!!!)</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="My personal favorite (SOLD OUT!!!)" class="bf_dom" height="750" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/13/enhanced-buzz-31857-1340989651-8.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="394" /></div></div>

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Risks in Loving Men Who Can’t Commit

<div><h1>Commitment phobic men are not wounded birds waiting to be nursed to health.</h1></div><div><img alt="" src="http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/files/imagecache/article-inline-half/blogs/73955/2012/06/99479-96904.jpg" /></div><div>Should women spend time, energy, and emotion on a man who may never be a part of their future? All too often women say to themselves or their friends: “Well, he wouldn’t commit in the past, but I’m different.  I have more patience than the other women he dated, and I am more understanding than most women. I can help him.” <p> </p><p>If you have heard yourself saying the words “I can help him,” think of yourself as being trapped in the “wounded bird syndrome”  in which your desire to nurse someone back to health is so strong that it clouds your logical thinking.</p><p>Before getting too involved with a commitment phobic man consider asking yourself  these 20 Questions to Finding New Love and Marriage.  And then make a conscious effort to understand what is most important to you. 2 Virtues Enhance Falling in Love Forever. Also watch his body language and his actions towards you. If you are jumping through hoops for the commitment phobic man and thinking you can nurse him back to love – think again. Many commitment phobic men are reliving a dysfunctional family role (in fact, some women are in this trap as well.)</p></div>

Risks in Loving Men Who Can’t Commit

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self-compassion consists of three components:

<ul><li>Self-kindness: Being kind, gentle and understanding with yourself when you’re suffering.</li><li>Common humanity: Realizing that you’re not alone in your struggles. When we’re struggling, we tend to feel especially isolated. We think we’re the only ones to experience loss, make mistakes, feel rejected or fail. But it’s these very struggles that are part of our shared experience as humans.</li><li>Mindfulness: Observing life as it is, without being judgemental or suppressing your thoughts and feelings.</li></ul>

self-compassion consists of three components:

Self-kindness: Being kind, gentle and understanding with yourself when you’re suffering. Common humanity: Realizing that you’re not alone in...

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I know I’ve been in sick relationships, but I don’t know what a healthyrelationship looks like.

<p>In the years I’ve been counseling and coaching, many people say, “I know I’ve been in sick relationships, but I don’t know what a healthyrelationship looks like.”</p><p>There are many long and complicated answers to this, but there is also a simple one: healthy relationships make your life larger and happier; unhealthy relationships narrow your life and make you crazy.</p><p>Healthy relationships do not include mind games, mixed messages, or control.  There is not a back and forth or continual makeup and breakup, or “I’m sorry, please forgive me” every week or so.</p><p><span id="more-32369"> </span></p><p>In healthy relationships, there is a partnership and a nurturing by both parties of that partnership.  At the same time, each person recognizes the need to have interests and time away from their partner to nurture themselves. They don’t need to have the same interests, but rather the same view of life. Healthy love is about taking care of yourself and taking care of your mate… and those things are in balance to the point where they seldom collide.</p><h3>What is Real Love?</h3><p>Healthy people lead to healthy relationships and healthy relationships lead to real love.</p><p>Real love does not seek another person to fill up what we are lacking. It takes a complete, whole person to really love and overly needy people cannot do it. Real love is balanced. Both partners love in fairly equal amounts. While the balance may shift back and forth, it is not lopsided. If you love someone who is not loving your back, or not loving you the way you love them, then it’s not real.</p><p>When you place expectations on people to fill your empty places, that is not healthy. It’s nice to have a partner, a companion, someone to help you weather life’s storms, but it is not okay to look for someone to complete you or fix your broken places. That is not real love; that is dependence, co-dependence, and unhealthy neediness.</p><p>Real love does not play games, cause us to lose <a title="sleep" href="http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sleep/">sleep</a>, friends, jobs, money, time and value in our lives. Real love is an enlarging and not a narrowing experience. And finally, real love does exist. But it is true that in order to find the right person, you need to be the right person.</p><p>To be the right person you have to do your work, examine your failed relationships and, find the patterns. Go to counseling if you have historical issues. Find out why you are attracted to a certain type that is not good for you. And, at the same time, build your life so that you are an independent, interesting, and attractive person.  You will attract other independent, interesting, and attractive people who are capable of good and loving relationships.</p><p>As I say over and over again, water seeks its own level. If you are attracting and attracted to unhealthy and dysfunctional, you are unhealthy and dysfunctional. Do your work so that real love andlasting love has a chance to walk in.</p>

I know I’ve been in sick relationships, but I don’t know what a healthyrelationship looks like.

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How to Keep Your Balance When There’s No Place to Stand and Nothing to Hold On To

<div><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Know you what it is to be a child?… it is </span><br /><span style="font-size: medium;">to believe in belief….</span><br /><span style="font-size: medium;">– Francis Thompson, 19th c. British poet</span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: medium;">We don’t forget our first ah-ha experience any more than we forget our first kiss. The difference is we have some idea of what to expect from a kiss, but we don’t know what to make of an enlightening incident. The experience lingers in memory as something special, but since we can’t account for it, we’re apt to keep it to o urselves.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Only in my thirties did I realize that an experience I’d had in my teens was the analogue of that first kiss. About six years after discovering that our third grade science book contained mistakes, it struck me that anything could be wrong. There were no infallible truths, no ultimate explanations.</span></p><p> </p><div><span style="font-size: medium;"><img alt="" src="http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/files/imagecache/article-inline-half/blogs/31396/2012/06/99615-97018.jpg" /></span></div><span style="font-size: medium;">In high school we were learning that science theories and models were not to be regarded as absolute truths, but rather taken to be useful descriptions that might someday be replaced with better ones. I accepted this way of holding scientific truth—it didn’t seem to undercut its usefulness. But I still wanted to believe there were absolute, moral truths, not mere assumptions, but unimpeachable, eternal verities. My mother certainly acted as if there were.</span><p> </p></div><div id="inline-content-bottom-left"><div id="block-td_search_160"><h2><span style="font-size: medium;">But one day, alone in my bedroom, I had the premonition that what was true of science applied to beliefs of every sort. I realized that, as in science, political, moral, or personal convictions could be questioned and might need amending or qualifying in certain circumstances. The feeling reminded me of consulting a dictionary and realizing that there are no final definitions, only cross references. I remember exactly where I was standing, and how it felt, when I discovered there was no place to stand, nothing to hold on to. I felt sobered, yet at the same time, strangely liberated. After all, if there were no absolutes, then there might be an escape from what often seemed to me to be a confining socialconformity.With this revelation, my hopes for definitive, immutable solutions to life’s problems dimmed. I shared my experience of unbelief with no one at the time, knowing that I couldn’t explain myself and fearing others’ mockery. I decided that to function in society I would have to pretend to go along with the prevailing consensus—at least until I could come up with something better. For decades afterwards, without understanding why, I was drawn to people and ideas that expanded my premonition of a worldview grounded not on immutable beliefs, but rather on a process of continually improving our best working assumptions.Science Models EvolveIt’s the essence of models that they’re works in progress. While nothing could be more obvious—after all, models are all just figments of our fallible imaginations—the idea that models can change, and should be expected to yield their place of privilege to better ones, has been surprisingly hard to impart.Until relatively recently we seem to have preferred to stick to what we know—or think we know—no matter the consequences. Rather than judge for ourselves, we’ve been ready to defer to existing authority and subscribe to received “wisdom.” Perhaps this is because of a premium put on not “upsetting the apple cart” during a period in human history when an upright apple cart was of more importance to group cohesiveness and survival than the fact that the cart was full of rotten apples.Ironically, our principal heroes, saints and geniuses alike, have typically spilled a lot of apples. Very often they are people who have championed a truth that contradicts the official line.A turning point in the history of human understanding came in the seventeenth century when one such figure, the English physician William Harvey, discovered that the blood circulates through the body. His plea—“I appeal to your own eyes as my witness and judge”—was revolutionary at a time when physicians looked not to their own experience but rather accepted on faith the Greek view that blood was made in the liver and consumed as fuel by the body. The idea that dogma be subordinated to the actual experience of the individual seemed audacious at the time.Another milestone was the shift from the geocentric (or Ptolemaic) model (named after the first-century Egyptian astronomer Ptolemy) to the heliocentric model (or Copernican) model (after the sixteenth-century Polish astronomer Copernicus, who is regarded by many as the father of modern science).Until five centuries ago, it was an article of faith that the sun, the stars, and the planets revolved around the earth, which lay motionless at the center of the universe. When the Italian scientist Galileo embraced the Copernican model, which held that the earth and other planets revolve around the sun, he was contradicting the teaching of the Church. This was considered sacrilegious and, under threat of torture, he was forced to recant. He spent the rest of his life under house arrest, making further astronomical discoveries and writing books for posterity. In 1992, Pope John Paul II acknowledged that the Roman Catholic Church had erred in condemning Galileo for asserting that the Earth revolves around the Sun.The Galileo affair was really an argument about whether models should be allowed to change without the Church’s consent. Those in positions of authority often deem acceptance of their beliefs, and with that the acceptance of their role as arbiters of beliefs, to be more important than the potential benefits of moving on to a better model. For example, the discovery of seashells on mountaintops and fossil evidence of extinct species undermined theological doctrine that the world and all living things were a mere six thousand years old. Such discoveries posed a serious challenge to the Church’s monopoly on truth.Typically, new models do not render old ones useless, they simply circumscribe their domains of validity, unveiling and accounting for altogether new phenomena that lie beyond the scope of the old models. Thus, relativity and quantum theory do not render Newton’s laws of motion obsolete. NASA has no need for the refinements of quantum or relativistic mechanics in calculating the flight paths of space vehicles. The accuracy afforded by Newton’s laws suffices for its purposes.Some think that truths that aren’t absolute and immutable disqualify themselves as truths. But just because models change doesn’t mean that anything goes. At any given time, what “goes” is precisely the most accurate model we’ve got. One simply has to be alert to the fact that our current model may be superseded by an even better one tomorrow. It’s precisely this built-in skepticism that gives science its power.Most scientists are excited when they find a persistent discrepancy between their latest model and empirical data. They know that such deviations signal the existence of hitherto unknown realms in which new phenomena may be discovered. The presumption that nature models are infallible has been replaced with the humbling expectation that their common destiny is to be replaced by more comprehensive and accurate ones.Toward the end of the nineteenth century, many physicists believed they’d learned all there was to know about the workings of the universe. The consensus was that between Newton’s dynamics and Maxwell’s electromagnetism we had everything covered. Prominent scientists solemnly announced the end of physics.There is nothing new to be discovered in physics now. All that remains is more and more precise measurement.– Lord Kelvin (1900)</span></h2><h2><span style="font-size: medium;">Then a few tiny discrepancies between theory and experiment were noted and as scientists explored them, they came upon the previously hidden realm of atomic and relativistic physics, and with it technologies that have put their stamp on the twentieth century.</span></h2><h2><span style="font-size: medium;">Albert Einstein believed that the final resting place of every theory is as a special case of a broader one. Indeed, he spent the last decades of his life searching for a unified theory that would have transcended the discoveries he made as a young man. The quest for such a grand unifying theory goes on.</span></h2></div></div><div id="inline-content-bottom-right" style="padding-left: 15px; width: 465px; float: right;"><div></div></div>

How to Keep Your Balance When There’s No Place to Stand and Nothing to Hold On To

Know you what it is to be a child?… it is  to believe in belief…. – Francis Thompson, 19th c. British poet We don’t forget our first ah-ha e...

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Being and Flowing is a good place to begin Healing Your Thoughts.

<p> </p><p>The first part of the Being and Flowing Sequence is a basic relaxation session where some (or several) of the techniques of guided imagery or meditation can be used. In fact, for this type of relaxation, you can use new techniques or techniques that are familiar to you and that have worked for you in the past. If you do the sequence regularly, you can switch between techniques if you like.</p><p>One caveat: We find that general medical/therapy techniques, specifically those that are not associated with a particular spiritual path, work best for the Being and Flowing meditation in this context. (We link to some general relaxation techniques from the University of Maryland Medical Center, below). </p><p>Being and Flowing First Step: Basic Relaxation Session</p><p>One: Position</p><p>If you are outdoors, find a quiet, safe place in a garden, park, beach or woods. Remember, safety comes first. If you are indoors, find a place where you won’t be disturbed. Sit on a floor cushion or in a chair with your feet on the floor, or lie down in a comfortable position. Whatever position you choose, try to remember, you might choose not to move or shift while being and flowing, so make sure it’s really comfortable.</p><p>Two: Watch Your Thoughts</p><p>Once you are comfortable, the first thing to keep in mind: Don’t worry about your thoughts. Allow them to come and go as they wish. Give them their freedom to come and go as they like. Don’t try to control them. Just observe them. </p><p>Three: Watch Your Breath</p><p>Don’t try to control your breathing. Just observe your breath. If you are familiar with breathing techniques and want to try them, you could, but to forge a new path it’s sometimes good to let go and experience non-familiar meditative pathways.</p><p>Four: No Goal</p><p>If you feel stressed or anxious, remember: there is no goal here. Just passively watch where your thoughts and breath take you. If after a few tries anxiety (or boredom, which can be a symptom of anxiety during meditation) feels overpowering, take a break.</p><p>Five: Far Away</p><p>At some point, your thoughts may seem to “melt away”. They may feel far away; you know they’re there, but they don’t seem to touch you, or you don’t really touch them. There is a gulf between you and your thoughts, including your less-than-helpful ones. When they are so far away, their ability to control you is greatly diminished.</p><p>Help!</p><p>If you need help we recommend you try music. We really like (and recommend) Dr. Harry Henshaw’s relaxation music. (Last year, we interviewed him, <a href="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/therapy-soup/2011/09/healing-with-music-relaxation-therapy/" target="_blank">here</a>.)</p><p>Dr. Henshaw’s audio tracks of <a href="http://www.enhancedhealing.com/" target="_blank">free-floating music</a> are really de-stressing. We can best describe them as providing a musical pathway on which your thoughts can flow. His music doesn’t restrain or confine your thoughts as much as gently supports them. We really liked the ones on <a href="http://www.enhancedhealing.com/products_results.php?ProductCategoryID%5B%5D=1&Search=Search" target="_blank">these pages</a>; so far, we’ve sampled the uplifting music of Clarity, the gentle vibrato of Cosmic Reflection, the sweet tones of Equilibrium and the progressions of Inner Peace.*</p><p>If you want more concrete help the techniques of progressive relaxation (and toe tensing) can be very helpful. The University of Maryland Medical Center has <a href="http://www.umm.edu/sleep/relax_tech.htm" target="_blank">clearly outlined them.</a> They recommend the techniques for sleep disorders, but they are also helpful for tension and anxiety. One quibble: they don’t mention that slightly tensing each area of the body (not just the toes) before you relax that part, can be even a more powerful path to relaxation.</p><p>We’ve made our own relaxation recordings at home. We record our soft, slow voices giving a step-by-step progressive relaxation session. You might enjoy making your own recordings, too.</p><p>Being and Flowing Second Step: Journal</p><p>If you are in therapy, or even if you’re not, it’s a good idea to do a Being and Flowing journal. Some people like to share this with their therapist, others don’t. It’s up to you.</p><p>You might consider doing an audio or video recording if you don’t like to write. Writing or otherwise recording your general experience with your relaxation session, is a good starting point. Then, if you like, continue to write or otherwise comment on your experience of your thinking process. What were your thoughts? Were you able to let them drift by? Did any thoughts “stick” more than others? Did new thoughts, thoughts you never “thought” before, pop up?</p><p>Also, you might explore the self that observed the thoughts. And so on. If you don’t like to write and don’t want to do an audio or video recording, you can try illustrating your experience by drawing, painting, collage (found objects, fabric, and so on), photography, etc.</p><p>Once you have a sense of Being and Flowing, you’ll might find yourself being able to step back, even in a non-relaxing session, from your thoughts that are not beneficial. You might find it easier to dispassionately examine your thoughts (and beliefs, which are a type of thought often mingled with emotion) and see if they are really beneficial to you.</p><p>In fact, a very important, even central, part of therapy is examining thoughts and beliefs that hamper or are openly damaging to: your personal growth, relationships, mental health, and physical health. Therapy, in part, teaches you how to “rethink” things, even changing your most closely held beliefs, if they don’t serve your growth. Healing your thoughts is central to healing your life.</p>

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How do you treat yourself

<p>How do you treat yourself?     How should you treat yourself? What should you think about yourself? How should you feel about yourself? Well..... how do you treat your best friend? What do you think about them? How do you feel about them? Now take that and multiply it by 10, multiply it by 100. Imagine how you would feel about somebody you were completely in love with, that you loved more than life itself, but it was an unconditional, open, free, healthy love, and not a needy, posessive, jealous, conditional love. Your eyes are wide open and you see all their faults and yet you love them despite their faults, perhaps because of them. Now perhaps you are getting close to how you should feel about yourself..........<span style="background-color: #ffffff; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: medium; text-align: left; white-space: nowrap;">Simon Meadowcroft</span></p>

How do you treat yourself

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FBI wants to ban new Internet protocol

<p>With the recent unveiling of the newest Internet protocol system, trillions upon trillions of devices are being paved access to the Internet for the unforeseeable future. And right on cue, the FBI is already up in arms over IPv6. With computing devices around the globe already switching from the current Internet protocol system, IPv4, the US Federal Bureau of Investigation is predictably picking a fight with the biggest names in cyberspace to ensure that the FBI and other agencies across North America will be able to inch themselves into the personal Web surfing habits of citizens across the world. Now requests from the FBI to ready a system to easily snoop through Internet traffic has proponents of IPv6 and industry reps alike scrambling to make sense of the feds’ demands. Under the original and quickly antiquating Internet protocol system, IPv4, only 4.3 billion computers, modems, smart phones and other wired devices can send and receive information through cyberspace. When the latest rollover to IPv6 is complete, however, 340 undecillion addresses (that’s a lot) will be able to be assigned. On the plus side, trillions of more devices will able to be delivered information over the Internet. The FBI, however, wants to make sure that they can still catch cyber criminals and suggest that they might have to insist that the private sector aids them in their future endeavors. According to report filed this week by Cnet’s Declan McCullagh, the FBI, Drug Enforcement Administration and Royal Canadian Mounted Police officials have jointly asked Internet representatives that traceability features be enabled with IPv6 that will allow federal agents to identify suspected cybercriminals with the same kind of ease evident with IPv4. Given that the government is already having trouble trying to find alleged cyberterrorists over the Internet as is, though, they might seriously have their work cut out for them. That’s where McCullagh reports, “The FBI has even suggested that a new law may be necessary if the private sector doesn't do enough voluntarily.” Speaking on condition of anonymity, an official with the FBI clues Cnet in on just why the agency is against the next-generation Internet protocol: “An issue may also arise around the amount of registration information that is maintained by providers and the amount of historical logging that exists. Today there are complete registries of what IPv4 addresses are ‘owned’ by an operator. Depending on how the IPv6 system is rolled out, that registry may or may not be sufficient for law enforcement to identify what device is accessing the Internet.” If hunting for cybercriminals is comparable to searching for a needle in a haystack under IPv4, with IPv6 it will be on par with scouring the stratosphere for a single molecule of oxygen. John Curran of the American Registry for Internet Numbers (ARIN) tells Cnet, "We're looking at a problem that's about to occur," and adds that, “as service providers start to roll out V6,” that’s exactly what they’ll receive. The answer, according to the FBI, might be a whole new set of legislation that will let them scour cyberspace for the answers for federal inquiries into alleged Internet crimes. "We're hoping through all of this you can come up with some self-regulatory method in which you can do it," FBI supervisory special agent Bobby Flaim said at an ARIN meeting earlier this year, reports Cnet . "Because otherwise, there will be other things that people are going to consider."</p>

FBI wants to ban new Internet protocol

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NOBODY DIED FROM LACK OF SLEEP, AA MYTHs

<p><div id="leadItem"><p>Beyond leaving you drowsy and irritable, sleepless nights can take aserious toll on your physical and mental health.</p><p>"We know sleep is a critical biological function that influences a wide variety of physiological process," said Dr. Susan Redline, a sleep specialist at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston. "Sleep deficiency can affect mood and the ability to make memories and learn, but it also affects metabolism, appetite, blood pressure, levels of inflammation in the body and perhaps even the immune response."</p><p>Lack of sleep has been linked to stroke, obesity, diabetes, anxiety, depression, and the country's No. 1 killers: heart disease and cancer. Read on to learn the health hazards of sleep deficiency and how you can sleep better.</p></div><div id="item_0"><h2>HEALTH HAZARDS LINKED TO LACK OF SLEEP</h2></div></p><table><tbody><tr><td>Stroke</td></tr></tbody></table><p><div id="item_0"><p>A new study of more than 5,600 people found those who slept fewer than six hours a night were more likely to suffer a stroke than their well-rested counterparts.</p><p>"We speculate that short sleep duration is a precursor to other traditional stroke risk factors, and once these traditional stroke risk factors are present, then perhaps they become stronger risk factors than sleep duration alone," Megan Ruiter of the University of Alabama at Birmingham said in a statement.</p><p>The study was presented today at the 26th annual meeting of the Associated Professional Sleep Societies in Boston, Mass.</p><p>Stroke risk is also higher in people who are overweight, diabetic or hypertensive -- all conditions linked to poor sleep.</p></div><div id="item_1"><h2>HEALTH HAZARDS LINKED TO LACK OF SLEEP</h2></div></p><table><tbody><tr><td>Obesity and Diabetes</td></tr></tbody></table><p><div id="item_1"><p>Sporadic and irregular sleep can raise blood sugar levels and slow the body's metabolism,increasing the risk of obesity and diabetes, according to an April 2012 study published in Science Translational Medicine.</p><p>"The evidence is clear that getting enough sleep is important for health," said study author Orfeu Buxton, a neuroscientist at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston.</p><p>Sleep deficiency can also lead to bad food choices, according to a study that found the sight of unhealthy food activated reward centers in the brains of sleep-deprived people.</p><p>"The results suggest that, under restricted sleep, individuals will find unhealthy foods highly salient and rewarding, which may lead to greater consumption of those foods," said Marie-Pierre St-Onge from St. Luke's Roosevelt Hospital Center and Columbia University in New York, and lead author of the study presented today at the Associated Professional Sleep Societies in Boston. "Indeed, food intake data from this same study showed that participants ate more overall and consumed more fat after a period of sleep restriction compared to regular sleep."</p></div><div id="item_2"><h2>HEALTH HAZARDS LINKED TO LACK OF SLEEP</h2></div></p><table><tbody><tr><td>Anxiety and Depression</td></tr></tbody></table><p><div id="item_2"><p>Sure, sleepless nights make for miserable mornings. But chronic sleep deficiency can lead to anxiety and depression -- both serious mood disorders.</p><p>"People feel more anxious, restless, irritable, less satisfied," said Dr. Mark Dyken, director of the University of Iowa's Sleep Disorders Center in Iowa City, adding sleep deficiency can impact careers and relationships. "They have difficulty focusing and sometimes feel like they just don't care anymore."</p><p>Brain imaging suggests sleep deprivation can boost activity in the brain's emotional centers, according to a study presented today at the Associated Professional Sleep Societies in Boston.</p><p>"Our results suggest that just one night of sleep loss significantly alters the optimal functioning of this essential brain process, especially among anxious individuals," study author Andrea Goldstein from the Sleep and Neuroimaging Laboratory at the University of California, Berkeley, said in a statement. "This is perhaps never more relevant considering the continued erosion of sleep time that continues to occur across society."</p></div><div id="item_3"><h2>HEALTH HAZARDS LINKED TO LACK OF SLEEP</h2></div></p><table><tbody><tr><td>Cancer</td></tr></tbody></table><p><div id="item_3"><p>Sleep deficiency has also been linked to an increased risk of cancer.</p><p>A 2008 study published in the British Journal of Cancer found women who slept fewer than six hours a night were more likely develop breast cancer, and a 2010 study published in the journal Cancer found those who slept fewer than six hours a night were more likely to have colorectal polyps, which can lead to colon cancer.</p><p>The biological mechanisms are unclear, but lack of sleep has been shown to boost levels of inflammation in the body and interfere with the immune response, both of which have been implicated in cancer.</p><p>"Sleep is restorative," said Dyken. "And if you don't get it, your health will suffer."</p></div><div id="item_4"><h2>HEALTH HAZARDS LINKED TO LACK OF SLEEP</h2></div></p><table><tbody><tr><td>Heart Disease</td></tr></tbody></table><p><div id="item_4"><p>Short and sporadic sleep may also raise the risk of heart disease.</p><p>A 2011 study published in the European Heart Journal found people who slept fewer than six hours a night were 48 percent more likely to develop or die from heart disease.</p><p>The link could have something to do with levels of inflammation in the body, but the researchers also found higher blood pressure and cholesterol in people with sleep deficiency.</p></div><div id="item_5"><h2>HEALTH HAZARDS LINKED TO LACK OF SLEEP</h2></div></p><table><tbody><tr><td>Get Your Sleep</td></tr></tbody></table><p><div id="item_5"><p>With hectic work and family schedules, getting a good night's sleep is no easy feat. But experts say a little planning can go a long way, helping you feel refreshed the next morning and for many to come.</p><p>"Make sure your bedroom is dark and quiet, and avoid reading anything that's going to make you excited or worried," said Dyken. "Try not to exercise or eat a big meal within three hours of your bedtime, but don't go to bed hungry, either."</p><p>Caffeine and alcohol can also interfere with sleep, according to Redline.</p><p>"Much of sleep deficiency is self-inflicted," she said. "But adults should do their best to get to bed at regular times and aim to have 7.5 hours on average of sleep. Set your schedule such that you honor and respect your sleep needs."</p></div></p>

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<div id="article_display" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 27px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><h2 style="color: grey; font-family: Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 25px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 0.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Take all 12 steps in just 4 hours -- Download this AA Big Book step guide and work book</h2><h3 style="font-family: Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 0.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">It takes only 4 hours to learn the 12 steps and a lifetime to practice them.</h3><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Through our own experience of working with others, many hopeless, suffering addicts lack the necessary power and time to "keep coming back" to meetings and somehow get sober or clean. Many chronic relapsers do not have the luxury of working the steps slowly -- they need power NOW, they cannot wait months to a year to work the steps -- they're barely hanging on as it is and it's just a question of how soon they're going to pick up again.</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">That's why, all across North America, there has been a revival of beginners' classes where a suffering addict can take all 12 steps in a matter of a few hours. They can receive an intelligent presentation of "our way of life" and make the decision as to whether or not they wish to accept this life without reservation. Moreover, they can find a power greater than themselves quickly and be restored to sanity FAST by taking this very simple program.</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Beginners' Meetings were held throughout the U.S. and Canada during a period of time when A.A. witnessed 50-75 percent recovery rates from alcoholism. Newcomers quickly learned "How It Works". They had conversion experiences, discovered a new way of living without alcohol or drugs and carried this message of hope to others. After completing the steps, newcomers, to ensure their own sobriety, helped others through the Steps and led the Beginners' Meetings.</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Ruth R., an old-timer in Miami Florida, who came into AA in 1953, gave some insight into the demise of the "Beginners' Classes".</div><blockquote style="font-size: 11pt;">Ruth recalled that the classes were discontinued in the mid-1950s as the result of the publication of the book "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions" by Alcoholics Anonymous Publishing Inc. In the Miami area the "Twelve and Twelve" replaced both the "Big Book" and the "Little Red Book" and "Step Studies" replaced the "Beginners' Classes". In the process, the period for taking the Steps was expanded and modified from 4 weeks to somewhere in between 12 and 16 weeks. The Fourth Step inventory was modified and became a much more laborious and detailed procedure. What was originally conceived as a very simple program, which took a few hours to complete, evolved into a complicated and confusing undertaking requiring several months.</blockquote><h3 class="pullquoteright" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: yellow; border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 5px; border-image: initial; border-left-color: yellow; border-left-style: dashed; border-left-width: 5px; border-right-color: yellow; border-right-style: dashed; border-right-width: 5px; border-top-color: yellow; border-top-style: dashed; border-top-width: 5px; float: right; font-family: Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 28px; margin-bottom: 5px; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px; margin-top: 5px; padding-bottom: 5px; padding-left: 5px; padding-right: 5px; padding-top: 5px; width: 250px;">Studying the Steps is not the same as taking the Steps. In the "Beginners' Classes" you take the steps. The Big Book says, "Here are the steps we took" not "here are the steps we read and talked about." The AA pioneers proved that action, not knowledge, produced the spiritual awakening that resulted in recovery from alcoholism or addiction.</h3><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">In the September 1945 issue of the Grapevine the Genesee Group in Rochester, NY explained their format for taking newcomers through the Steps. The title of the article was "Rochester Prepares Novices for Group Participation". This is how they perceived the recovery process to operate most efficiently: "It has been our observation that bringing men [and woman] into the group indiscriminately and without adequate preliminary training and information can be a source of considerable grief and a cause of great harm to the general moral of the group itself. We feel that unless a man, after a course of instruction and an intelligent presentation of the case for the AA life, has accepted it without any reservation he should not be included in group membership. When the sponsors feel that a novice has a fair working knowledge of AA's objectives and sufficient grasp of it's fundamentals then he is brought to his first group meeting.</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">To show other addicts precisely how we have recovered is the main purpose of the beginners' meeting. Our format quotes extensively from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous (4th Edition), our basic text for recovery. Our notes, commentary, and gender-neutral changes are formatted in italics.</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. (p. 58, A.A. 4h Edition)</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Of alcoholics who came to A.A. and really tried, 50% got sober at once and remained that way; 25% sobered up after some relapses, and among the remainder, those who stayed on with A.A. showed improvement. Other thousands came to a few A.A. meetings and at first decided they didn't want the program. But great numbers of these--about two out of three--began to return as time passed. (p. xx, A.A. 4th Edition)</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Our primary purpose is to work the steps and teach others how to teach others how to work the steps. We connect suffering addicts to recovered addicts who guide newcomers through a personalized <i>one on one</i> study of the original, undiluted 12 step program described in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. We substitute terms and phrases related to alcoholism to include ANY obsessive, compulsive patterns such as drinking alcohol, using drugs, gambling, sex, self-harm or injury, food, anorexia, bulimia, sugar, smoking, co-dependency etc., anyone can certainly increase this list and all are welcome.</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><a href="http://www.bigbooksponsorship.org/downloads/4-hour-12-steps.pdf" style="color: blue; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;">Download this FREE 12 Step workbook that guides the newcomer through all 12 steps.</a></div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">This format is designed for 2 or more addicts working in pairs and can be conducted in one half day, four hour session or in four, one-hour sessions.</div><div style="font-size: 11pt; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 10px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">For further insights on step work it is suggested that everyone get a copy of the "Big Book".</div><br /> <table cellspacing="0" id="article_file_download" style="background-color: #f7f7f7; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; margin-top: 10px; width: 450px;"><tbody> <tr style="text-align: left;"><td colspan="2" id="table_header" style="background-color: yellow; border-bottom-color: yellow; border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-image: initial; border-left-color: yellow; border-left-style: solid; border-left-width: 1px; border-right-color: yellow; border-right-style: solid; border-right-width: 1px; border-top-color: yellow; border-top-style: solid; border-top-width: 1px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 5px; padding-left: 5px; padding-right: 5px; padding-top: 5px;">File Download</td></tr> <tr style="text-align: left;"><th valign="top">Title</th><td style="border-bottom-color: yellow; border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-image: initial; border-left-color: yellow; border-left-style: solid; border-left-width: 1px; border-right-color: yellow; border-right-style: solid; border-right-width: 1px; border-top-color: yellow; border-top-style: solid; border-top-width: 1px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 5px; padding-left: 5px; padding-right: 5px; padding-top: 5px;">4-hour-12-steps</td></tr> <tr style="text-align: left;"><th valign="top">Description</th><td style="border-bottom-color: yellow; border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-image: initial; border-left-color: yellow; border-left-style: solid; border-left-width: 1px; border-right-color: yellow; border-right-style: solid; border-right-width: 1px; border-top-color: yellow; border-top-style: solid; border-top-width: 1px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 5px; padding-left: 5px; padding-right: 5px; padding-top: 5px;">Download this PDF workbook that guides the newcomer through all 12 steps.</td></tr> <tr style="text-align: left;"><th>Download</th><td style="border-bottom-color: yellow; border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-image: initial; border-left-color: yellow; border-left-style: solid; border-left-width: 1px; border-right-color: yellow; border-right-style: solid; border-right-width: 1px; border-top-color: yellow; border-top-style: solid; border-top-width: 1px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 5px; padding-left: 5px; padding-right: 5px; padding-top: 5px;"><a href="http://www.bigbooksponsorship.org/downloads/4-hour-12-steps.pdf" style="background-color: transparent; color: blue; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;">4-hour-12-steps.pdf</a>    [457 k]</td></tr> </tbody></table></div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline" />

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