The Five Keys to Mindful Communication

<p>The first key of mindful communication, according to Chapman (2012), is having amindful presence. This means having an open mind, awake body and a tender heart. When you have a mindful presence, you give up expectations, stories about yourself and others, and acting on emotions.</p><p>You are fully in the present moment; your communication isn’t focused on the “me” and what the “me” needs, but the we.</p><p>Mindful listening is the second key to mindful communication. Mindful listening is about encouraging the other person. This means looking through the masks and pretense and seeing the value in the person and the strengths he or she possesses. It’s looking past the human frailties and flaws that we all have to see the authentic person and the truth in what that person is attempting to say.</p><p>Mindful speech, the third key, is about gentleness. Speaking gently means being effective in what you say. It’s about speaking in a way that you can be hard. To be gentle with our speech means being aware of when our own insecurities and fears are aroused to the point we are acting out of fear rather than acceptance.</p><p>Practicing self-compassion for our fear, envy, jealousy and self-doubts is more effective than focusing on others as being a threat or attempting to change them. When you use gentle speech, you are communicating acceptance to the other person and saying what is true, not an interpretation or an exaggeration or a minimization.</p><p>The key to mindful relationships is unconditional friendliness. Unconditional friendliness means accepting the ebb and flow of relationships. Sometimes you meet new friends, sometimes friends move on, sometimes there is joy and sometimes there is pain. Sometimes you’ll feel lonely, sometimes you’ll feel cherished and connected, and then you’ll feel lonely again.</p><p>Unconditional friendliness means that your acceptance of others is not dependent on them staying with you or agreeing with you. You don’t cling to relationships to avoid loss.</p><p>Mindful responsiveness is like playfulness.  Playfulness is the openness that you can have when you let go of preconceived ideas and strategies. It’s like creating something new. Imagine two skilled dancers who alternatively lead each other in creating a new dance in every interaction, never doing the same complete dance over and over. They respond in the moment to the message sent by the other. There are no rules or expectations and yet they both bring skillful behavior.</p><p>Mindful communication requires practice. If you choose to practice the keys, you might choose to focus on one at a time. Being willing to regulate your emotions is a prerequisite to mindful communication and mindfulness of your emotions is necessary for emotion regulation.</p><p>Mindfulness is a core skill for the emotionally sensitive.</p><p> </p><p>References</p><p><iframe src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?lt1=_blank&bc1=000000&IS2=1&bg1=FFFFFF&fc1=000000&lc1=0000FF&t=dreawarrreco-20&o=1&p=8&l=as4&m=amazon&f=ifr&ref=ss_til&asins=1590309413" frameborder="0"></iframe></p><p>Chapman, Susan Gillis. The Five Keys to Mindful Communication:  Using Deep Listening and Mindful Speech to Strengthen Relationships, Heal Conflicts and Acceomplish Your Goals. Boston: Shambhala, 2012.</p>

The Five Keys to Mindful Communication

The first key of mindful communication, according to Chapman (2012), is having amindful presence. This means having an open mind, awake body...

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ADDICTION charity Focus12 has received a huge financial boost after a codumentary about Russell Brand was shown last night.

<p><p>The documentary Russell Brand: Addiction to Recovery resulted in an immediate boost in donations and inspired the managing director of Bury St Edmunds based Chevington Finance and Leasing to offer the charity £106,000 over three years.</p><div><p>Russell Brand attended Focus12, the Bury St Edmunds abstinence-based alcohol and drug rehabilitation centre, in 2003 and is now a patron of the charity, describing it as ‘a really excellent example of a small cost effective rehab that can help people change in dramatic ways’.</p><p>Chip Somers, Focus12’s chief executive, said: “Russell’s documentary and his work this year to raise the profile of abstinence based recovery has got people talking about addiction in a different way, and made them realise that there is a viable alternative to simply giving up on addicts, or parking them on methadone.</p><p>“We are blown away by the generosity of Chevington — this financial support will make a huge difference to us as a charity and will certainly mean we can continue to stay open and help those who need us for longer. Raising funds for a recovery charity has never been harder than it is at present, every day is literally a struggle to keep afloat and we are very grateful.”</p><p>Clive Morris, Managing Director of Chevington Finance and Leasing said: “My wife and I were incredibly touched by last night’s documentary, which inspired us to endorse the local treatment centre Focus12, and we have today agreed funding assistance for the charity of £106,000 over the next 4 years.</p><p>“We believe that as a successful, responsible and reliable company we have a duty to help local charities survive this recession and the work that Chip Somers and his team do is fantastic and we fully endorse their abstinence based programme and have seen what a difference it makes to people’s lives.”</p></div></p>

ADDICTION charity Focus12 has received a huge financial boost after a codumentary about Russell Brand was shown last night.

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London's secret music venue and their livestream act

<div><h3></h3></div><div id="15745"><img alt="boiler-room-ch1.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch1-thumb-800x533-45065.jpg" width="620" /><p>With an invite-only door policy and super secret location, <a href="http://boilerroom.tv/" target="_blank">Boiler Room</a> is London's most exclusive music venue. But elitism isn't the premise for its clandestine nature—in fact, anyone with an Internet connection can easily join in the fun. Using a simple webcam, the crew behind Boiler Room livestreams each set for the world to see free of charge, and each month more than a million viewers tune in to see performances by artists like James Blake, The xx, Roots Manuva, Neon Indian, Juan Maclean and more.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch2.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch2-thumb-800x533-45066.jpg" width="620" /><p>We recently chilled out to the smooth sounds of Brooklyn's <a href="http://howtodresswell.com/" target="_blank">How To Dress Well</a> before rocking out to revered musician <a href="http://boilerroom.tv/matthew-dear-40-min-mix/" target="_blank">Matthew Dear</a>, who brought down the house with an intense 40-minute DJ set. Keep an eye out for our interview with Dear, but for now you can get a little more insight into the underground music scene's most talked about livestream show by checking out our interview with assistant musical programmer and Boiler Room host Nic Tasker.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch3.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch3-thumb-800x533-45067.jpg" width="620" /><h5>How important is it for Boiler Room to remain secret, at least in its location?</h5><p>That is quite an important aspect of it, purely because it means when you do shows you don't get a lot of groupies, pretty much everyone in the room is either a friend of ours or one of the artist's. It helps to create a more relaxed atmosphere for the artist and I think they feel less pressure. They're also just able to chill out and be themselves more rather than having people being like, "Hi can I get your autograph?" If the artists are relaxed usually you get the best music.</p><h5>It seems like there is more interaction among the crowd than at a typical venue, is that intentional?</h5><p>It's definitely a social place. All the people that come down, most of them we know and they're all our friends. So they come down, hang, have a drink and just chill out, basically. From our very set-up, we do it with a webcam, we're not a highly professional organization but I think that's kind of the charm of it. The main thing is people come down with the right attitude.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch4.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch4-thumb-800x533-45068.jpg" width="620" /><h5>How much of the show is prescribed?</h5><p>I guess that depends on the artist. We never say anything. Literally, whatever they want to do—we're kind of the platform for them to do whatever they want, so if Matthew Dear wants to come and play an hour of noise with no beats, he can do that. That's fine with us, and I think that's why artists like coming to play for us. We're not like a club where you have to make people dance, we don't give a shit if people dance. It's nice if they do and it makes it more fun, but some nights you just get people appreciating the music, which is equally fun.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch5.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch5-thumb-800x533-45069.jpg" width="620" /><h5>Is there a particular kind of artist you guys look for and ask to come perform?</h5><p>No, not particularly, it's just whatever we're feeling. Thristian [Boiler Room's co-founder] has the main say on musical direction, but it's a massive team effort. In London there's five of us, New York there's two, LA there's one and Berlin there's two.</p><h5>Tonight you had different set-ups for each artist, do you tailor their positioning in the room to their style?</h5><p>It definitely depends on the act and what kind of music they do. With live bands we found what works nicely is having them opposite each other because it's like they're in rehearsal, like they're just jamming. Which is again trying to give them that chilled out feel that they're just at home jamming and there happens to be a camera there. For some of our shows we've had over 100,000 viewers. When you think of those numbers it's quite scary, but when you're in the room and it's all friends it creates that vibe that people don't mind. You can imagine if you had all those people in front of you it would be a very different situation.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch7.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch7-thumb-800x533-45072.jpg" width="620" /><h5>Have you ever thought of Boiler Room as an East London version of Soul Train?</h5><p>It's never crossed my mind like that, but I can see why you think that. I like to think of us as the new music broadcaster, kind of the new MTV, but obviously we operate in the underground scene mainly. But I like to think that what we do is as revolutionary as what they were doing. We're always growing into something new.</p><img alt="boiler-room-ch6.jpg" height="413" src="http://www.coolhunting.com/assets_c/2012/08/boiler-room-ch6-thumb-800x533-45070.jpg" width="620" /><h5>What's up next for Boiler Room?</h5><p>We have had visual people in doing 3D mapping, and that's something we're looking forward to progressing—doing more with the visuals. We've got the upstairs as well, we're starting to do breakfast shows with some high profile DJs, we're going to be doing that regularly. Each will have an individual format. The next step is progressing the US shows, we're alternating weekly between New York and LA, so the next step is to take Boiler Room to America</p></div>

London's secret music venue and their livestream act

With an invite-only door policy and super secret location,  Boiler Room  is London's most exclusive music venue. But elitism isn't t...

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Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.

<p>Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.UK Citizens<iframe src="http://rcm-uk.amazon.co.uk/e/cm?t=cosdelcri-21&o=2&p=8&l=as1&asins=1577316142&ref=tf_til&fc1=000000&IS2=1&lt1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="width:120px;height:240px;" scrolling="no" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" frameborder="0"></iframe></p><p>This is the book that offers a different perspective on codependency and is strongly recommended by Dream Warrior Recovery as part of a solution based recovery. This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life.US Citizens<iframe src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?lt1=_blank&bc1=FFFFFF&IS2=1&bg1=FFFFFF&fc1=000000&lc1=0000FF&t=dreawarrreco-20&o=1&p=8&l=as4&m=amazon&f=ifr&ref=ss_til&asins=1577316142" style="width:120px;height:240px;" scrolling="no" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" frameborder="0"></iframe></p><p>Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world. Then they focus on healing co-dependency, providing compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.</p>

Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.

Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behav...

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True guilt is guilt at the obligation one owes to oneself to be oneself. False guilt is guilt felt at not being what other people feel one ought to be or assume that one is. Moderate feelings of guilt are beneficial because they encourage the individual to do the right thing

<p>The Scottish psychologist R.D. Laing once said: True guilt is guilt at the obligation one owes to oneself to be oneself. False guilt is guilt felt at not being what other people feel one ought to be or assume that one is. Moderate feelings of guilt are beneficial because they encourage the individual to do the right thing. If nobody felt guilty about anything it would likely lead to a fearful world and it could even threaten the survival of the human species. There is also a more negative form of guilt which is excessive and harmful. This refers to a situation where the individual carries a sense of guilt around with them most of the time. The reasons for why the individual may become a victim of excessive guilt include: They have a poor self image. It can be a sign of mental health difficulties. Some people fall into negative thinking and this tends to include guilt. The individual has been a victim of physical or sexual abuse. Unhealthy relationships can leave people with feelings of guilt. Excessive stress. Alcohol or drug abuse.</p>

True guilt is guilt at the obligation one owes to oneself to be oneself. False guilt is guilt felt at not being what other people feel one ought to be or assume that one is. Moderate feelings of guilt are beneficial because they encourage the individual to do the right thing

The Scottish psychologist R.D. Laing once said: True guilt is guilt at the obligation one owes to oneself to be oneself. False guilt is gui...

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A million Britons live with the hell of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

<p>Nadine Stewart was convinced she was going to die. Just ten minutes after setting off for a pop concert with her sister, she felt a tingling sensation in her arms and pain in her chest.</p><p>‘I knew I was having a heart attack,’ says Nadine, 41, a customer services adviser from Morecambe, Lancashire. ‘I begged my sister to take me to A&E: I ran in and screamed that I was having a heart attack.</p><p>‘They put me on a monitor and my heart was fine — what I had suffered was a panic attack. I have no idea to this day what caused it, but it terrified the life out of me.’ </p><div><img alt="Nadine Stewart has to do everything nine times or fears her husband will die" height="565" src="http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/07/25/article-2178978-13FDCCA8000005DC-228_634x565.jpg" width="634" /><p>Nadine Stewart has to do everything nine times or fears her husband will die</p></div><p>But worse was to come. ‘Afterwards, I developed a fear that if I didn’t do something nine times, something terrible would happen to me, my husband Paul or a member of my family.’ says Nadine. </p><p>‘If I made a drink I had to stir it nine times. If I locked the door I had to check it nine times and if I used a cloth to wipe a surface I’d have to wipe it nine times. I don’t know why it was nine. I realised I was being utterly irrational. But every time I tried to curb it — such as only stirring my drink three times — I’d begin to panic.'</p><div> ‘If I didn’t do these things nine times, I’d imagine Paul and me veering off the motorway in our car and see his injured face in the aftermath.’</div><p>Nadine had Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), recognised by the World Health Organisation as one of the top ten most disabling disorders in terms of its effect on quality of life. </p><p>Last month both the British actress Emily Blunt and the MP Charles Walker revealed they suffered from it, with Walker admitting he had to do everything in multiples of four — and felt the need to wash his hands hundreds of times a day. </p><div> Who knew?<br />Surveys estimate that fewer than<br />10 per cent of those suffering OCD are currently receiving treatment.</div><p>They are not alone. Around a million people in the UK are thought to be undergoing treatment for OCD, the majority of them women. Women are twice as likely as men to develop anxiety disorders such as OCD — and high-achieving perfectionists are particularly at risk. </p><p>‘There are two parts to OCD, the obsession and the compulsion,’ explains Joel Rose, of charity OCD Action. ‘The obsession is a thought that pops into your head, about harm coming to someone you love or you causing harm to someone.'</p><p>‘Everyone has these thoughts but most of us ignore them and get on with our lives. Someone with OCD will develop a compulsive ritual as a reaction to them. It can be continually washing their hands or something invisible like repeating the same phrase over and over in their heads.'</p><p>‘The time spent on these compulsions lengthens with time. A severe OCD sufferer might spend six or seven hours a day washing their hands in the hope nothing terrible happens to their children.’</p><p>The cause of the condition is not known, though a stressful event in someone’s life may trigger an underlying problem. </p><p>Nadine has never pinpointed the root of her troubles — though they began in the year she started a new job, moved house and got engaged. ‘I had no reason to feel anxious,’ she said, ‘though I suppose there was a lot of change.</p><p>‘I became scared of choking to death so I stopped eating and lost three stone in less than three months. I couldn’t leave the house without Paul, and even then it would take me three hours to pluck up the courage.’</p><p>Someone who can empathise with Nadine is Jeni Scott, 31, who’s had OCD for three years. <br />It began when her father had a heart attack and her mother was diagnosed with cancer, soon after Jeni left university. </p><p>‘I became obsessed with doing things in order,’ says Jeni, a tutor from Newport, Wales. ‘I started making lists but it had everything on it such as “get up, have shower, make a cup of tea” and if I didn’t stick to it I would punish myself by denying myself a treat.</p><div><img alt="Actress Emily Blunt, star of Five Year Engagement, has revealed she suffers from OCD" height="1060" src="http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/07/25/article-2178978-139B6B4A000005DC-908_306x1060.jpg" width="306" /><p>Actress Emily Blunt, star of Five Year Engagement, has revealed she suffers from OCD</p></div><p>‘I developed a phobia of being in the rain in the wrong clothes and had to take a backpack with spare bra, pants, coat, shoes and umbrella everywhere with me. I’d carry antibacterial gel in my bag and use it every ten minutes. I’ve still no idea why I did it, I just found it helped me.’ </p><p>Aisha Faisal, from Reading, Berkshire, also suffers from OCD — and it’s getting worse. ‘I developed it in my teens when my mother fell ill and I had to clean the house,’ the 26-year-old says. ‘Now I’m obsessed with everything being super-clean. I wash my hands 14 or 15 times a day, I shower for an hour at a time and wash the shower head and bath thoroughly before I step in. </p><p>‘If someone touches me, I cringe. My neighbour touched my scarf to tell me it was pretty and I had to have a shower and put all my clothes in the wash.’ Aisha, who has three children under four, admits her obsession extended to giving birth. </p><p>‘Each time I had Caesarean sections — the thought of having a natural birth makes me feel physically sick.’ She made the surgeons assure her everything had been scrubbed thoroughly before each operation. Understandably, her OCD worries the rest of her family. ‘My husband Ali finds it very hard to see me like this. I won’t let him touch me when he comes in from work: he has to shower and put on clean clothes before he can hug me.'</p><p>‘With three young children, being clean is impossible and I bathe them twice a day in the winter and sometimes four times a day in the summer if they’re hot and sticky.’</p><p>As a result of her obsession her own hands are red raw and she suffers from eczema. ‘I have been to the GP but it’s very difficult to treat. I know I must do something soon, because my eldest daughter, who is four, is picking up on my behaviour and I feel very guilty about that.'</p><p>‘The other day she came in from the garden and said she was dirty so needed to get out of her clothes and I washed her and cleaned her thoroughly. My husband can’t believe our electricity bill because the washing machine is on constantly.’</p><p>While Aisha is still in the grip of OCD, Jeni and Nadine have overcome the condition. According to the NHS, the two recognised forms of treatment are Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), which helped Jeni, and anti-depressants. </p><p>But Nadine used another therapy called The Linden Method — a two-day workshop costs £995 — when she reached her lowest point early last year.</p><p>‘I was unable to work, leave the house or answer the phone,’ she says. ‘My vision became blurry, my hands would spasm and I’d get pains like rheumatism. I began to think: “What’s the point in living?” yet I was too scared to kill myself.’</p><p>The Linden Method — which has also helped OCD sufferers Jemma and Jodie Kidd — works by convincing the sufferer’s sub-conscious that they are safe. </p><p>‘I’m a different person,’ says Nadine. ‘I can leave the house, I’m applying for jobs, taking up hobbies and it’s transformed my relationship with Paul. </p><p>‘He says it’s like having a wife in a wheelchair who can walk again. Except I feel I can not only walk, I can fly.’</p><p><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; text-align: left;"><br /><br /><br /></span></p>

A million Britons live with the hell of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

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Please shed whatever lowly vestments you're currently using to hide your disgusting body, and slip into one of these pre-shrunk cotton miracles.

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border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">3.</span> DJ Caesar</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="DJ Caesar" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-21969-1340987108-13.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401585" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">4.</span> Boxer Rocky</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Boxer Rocky" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-919-1340987002-22.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401661" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">5.</span> Hunter Buck</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Hunter Buck" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-31927-1340987757-8.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401576" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">6.</span> Biker JD</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Biker JD" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22014-1340986864-16.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401591" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">7.</span> Combat Sam</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Combat Sam" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-17092-1340987044-8.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401592" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">8.</span> Combat Stryker</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Combat Stryker" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-20421-1340987065-3.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401634" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">9.</span> DJ Jahman</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="DJ Jahman" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22622-1340987658-4.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401646" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">10.</span> Graffiti Saber</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Graffiti Saber" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22587-1340987698-3.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401668" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">11.</span> Navy SEAL</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Navy SEAL" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19513-1340987807-7.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401674" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">12.</span> Smokin Jahman</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Smokin Jahman" class="bf_dom" height="557" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19436-1340987849-4.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401685" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">13.</span> DJ Sarge</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="DJ Sarge" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19498-1340987955-8.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401689" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">14.</span> Rocker Cooper</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Rocker Cooper" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19516-1340987980-5.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401800" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">15.</span> Duck Hunter</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Duck Hunter" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/13/enhanced-buzz-19487-1340989395-27.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401728" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">16.</span> Big Cock Head</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Big Cock Head" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-5673-1340988493-7.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401697" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">17.</span> Guard Panzer</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Guard Panzer" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-31969-1340988031-9.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401707" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">18.</span> Nas T-Rex</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Nas T-Rex" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-5634-1340988149-12.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401716" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">19.</span> Punky!</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Punky!" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-5683-1340988287-12.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401726" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">20.</span> Backpack Kitty</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Backpack Kitty" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22669-1340988456-7.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401735" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">21.</span> Come & Get It</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Come &amp; Get It" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-31927-1340988528-15.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401743" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">22.</span> Rastafurrian Kitten</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Rastafurrian Kitten" class="bf_dom" height="557" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-19513-1340988620-20.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401747" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">23.</span> T-Rex Tearing</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="T-Rex Tearing" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web04/2012/6/29/12/enhanced-buzz-22678-1340988662-20.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401812" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">24.</span> Golden Feather</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="Golden Feather" class="bf_dom" height="546" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/13/enhanced-buzz-31966-1340989485-14.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="625" /></div><div class="sub_buzz_source_via buzz_attribution" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 11px; background-color: transparent; color: #777777; float: right; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Source: <span style="background-color: transparent;">shop.themountain.me</span></div></div><div id="superlist_1646474_401822" class="buzz_superlist_item buzz_superlist_item_image" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px -30px; padding: 15px 0px 15px 30px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; background-color: #ffffff; position: relative; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 8px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: 24px; background-color: transparent; line-height: 32px; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-weight: normal; color: #121212;"><span class="buzz_superlist_number_inline" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent; display: inline;">25.</span> My personal favorite (SOLD OUT!!!)</h1><div class="sub_buzz_content" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 10px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;"><img alt="My personal favorite (SOLD OUT!!!)" class="bf_dom" height="750" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/29/13/enhanced-buzz-31857-1340989651-8.jpg" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; background-color: transparent;" width="394" /></div></div>

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Risks in Loving Men Who Can’t Commit

<div><h1>Commitment phobic men are not wounded birds waiting to be nursed to health.</h1></div><div><img alt="" src="http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/files/imagecache/article-inline-half/blogs/73955/2012/06/99479-96904.jpg" /></div><div>Should women spend time, energy, and emotion on a man who may never be a part of their future? All too often women say to themselves or their friends: “Well, he wouldn’t commit in the past, but I’m different.  I have more patience than the other women he dated, and I am more understanding than most women. I can help him.” <p> </p><p>If you have heard yourself saying the words “I can help him,” think of yourself as being trapped in the “wounded bird syndrome”  in which your desire to nurse someone back to health is so strong that it clouds your logical thinking.</p><p>Before getting too involved with a commitment phobic man consider asking yourself  these 20 Questions to Finding New Love and Marriage.  And then make a conscious effort to understand what is most important to you. 2 Virtues Enhance Falling in Love Forever. Also watch his body language and his actions towards you. If you are jumping through hoops for the commitment phobic man and thinking you can nurse him back to love – think again. Many commitment phobic men are reliving a dysfunctional family role (in fact, some women are in this trap as well.)</p></div>

Risks in Loving Men Who Can’t Commit

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self-compassion consists of three components:

<ul><li>Self-kindness: Being kind, gentle and understanding with yourself when you’re suffering.</li><li>Common humanity: Realizing that you’re not alone in your struggles. When we’re struggling, we tend to feel especially isolated. We think we’re the only ones to experience loss, make mistakes, feel rejected or fail. But it’s these very struggles that are part of our shared experience as humans.</li><li>Mindfulness: Observing life as it is, without being judgemental or suppressing your thoughts and feelings.</li></ul>

self-compassion consists of three components:

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I know I’ve been in sick relationships, but I don’t know what a healthyrelationship looks like.

<p>In the years I’ve been counseling and coaching, many people say, “I know I’ve been in sick relationships, but I don’t know what a healthyrelationship looks like.”</p><p>There are many long and complicated answers to this, but there is also a simple one: healthy relationships make your life larger and happier; unhealthy relationships narrow your life and make you crazy.</p><p>Healthy relationships do not include mind games, mixed messages, or control.  There is not a back and forth or continual makeup and breakup, or “I’m sorry, please forgive me” every week or so.</p><p><span id="more-32369"> </span></p><p>In healthy relationships, there is a partnership and a nurturing by both parties of that partnership.  At the same time, each person recognizes the need to have interests and time away from their partner to nurture themselves. They don’t need to have the same interests, but rather the same view of life. Healthy love is about taking care of yourself and taking care of your mate… and those things are in balance to the point where they seldom collide.</p><h3>What is Real Love?</h3><p>Healthy people lead to healthy relationships and healthy relationships lead to real love.</p><p>Real love does not seek another person to fill up what we are lacking. It takes a complete, whole person to really love and overly needy people cannot do it. Real love is balanced. Both partners love in fairly equal amounts. While the balance may shift back and forth, it is not lopsided. If you love someone who is not loving your back, or not loving you the way you love them, then it’s not real.</p><p>When you place expectations on people to fill your empty places, that is not healthy. It’s nice to have a partner, a companion, someone to help you weather life’s storms, but it is not okay to look for someone to complete you or fix your broken places. That is not real love; that is dependence, co-dependence, and unhealthy neediness.</p><p>Real love does not play games, cause us to lose <a href="http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sleep/" title="sleep">sleep</a>, friends, jobs, money, time and value in our lives. Real love is an enlarging and not a narrowing experience. And finally, real love does exist. But it is true that in order to find the right person, you need to be the right person.</p><p>To be the right person you have to do your work, examine your failed relationships and, find the patterns. Go to counseling if you have historical issues. Find out why you are attracted to a certain type that is not good for you. And, at the same time, build your life so that you are an independent, interesting, and attractive person.  You will attract other independent, interesting, and attractive people who are capable of good and loving relationships.</p><p>As I say over and over again, water seeks its own level. If you are attracting and attracted to unhealthy and dysfunctional, you are unhealthy and dysfunctional. Do your work so that real love andlasting love has a chance to walk in.</p>

I know I’ve been in sick relationships, but I don’t know what a healthyrelationship looks like.

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